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Bill, Jim, and Scott were at a convention together and were sharing a
large
suite on the top of a 75-story skyscraper.

After a long day of meetings, they were shocked to hear that the elevators
in their hotel were broken and they would have to climb 75 flights of
stairs
to get to their room.

Bill said to Jim and Scott, "Let's break the monotony of this unpleasant
task by concentrating on something interesting. I'll tell jokes for 25
flights, Jim can sing songs for the next 25 flights, and Scott can tell
sad
stories for the rest of the way."

At the 26th floor, Bill stopped telling jokes and Jim began to sing. At
the
51st floor, Jim stopped singing and Scott began to tell sad stories.

"I will tell my saddest story first," he said. "I left the room key in the
car!"

Your dreams make you and not vice versa

Once there was a boy who lived in a big house on a hill. He loved dogs and horses, sports cars and music. He climbed trees and went swimming, played football and admired pretty girls. Except for having to pick up after himself, he had a nice life.

One day the boy said to God, "I’ve been thinking, and I know what I want when I become a man."

"What?" asked God.

"I want to live in a big house with a porch across the front and two Saint Bernards and a garden out back. I want to marry a woman who is tall and very beautiful and kind, who has long, black hair and blue eyes, and who plays the guitar and sings in a clear, high voice.

"I want three strong sons to play football with. When they grow up, one will be a great scientist, one will be a senator and the youngest will quarterback for the 49ers.

"I want to be an adventurer who sails vast oceans and climbs tall mountains and rescues people. And I want to drive a red Ferrari and never have to pick up after myself."

"That sounds like a nice dream," said God. "I want you to be happy."

One day, playing football, the boy hurt his knee. After that he couldn’t climb tall mountains or even tall trees, much less sail vast oceans. So he studied marketing and started a medical-supplies business.

He married a girl who was very beautiful and very kind and who had long, black hair. But she was short, not tall, and had brown eyes, not blue. She couldn’t play the guitar, or even sing. But she prepared wonderful meals seasoned with rare Chinese spices and painted magnificent pictures of birds.

Because of his business, he lived in a city near the top of a tall apartment building that overlooked the blue ocean and the city’s twinkling lights. He didn’t have room for two Saint Bernards, but he had a fluffy cat.

He had three daughters, all very beautiful. The youngest, who was in a wheelchair, was the loveliest. The three daughters loved their father very much. They didn’t play football with him, but sometimes they went to the park and tossed a Fris-bee ---except for the youngest, who sat under a tree strumming her guitar and singing lovely, haunting songs.

He made enough money to live comfortably, but he didn’t drive a red Ferrari. Sometimes he had to pick up things and put them away -even things that didn’t belong to him. After all, he had three daughters.

Then one morning the man awoke and remembered his dream. "I am very sad," he said to his best friend.

"Why?" asked his friend.

"Because I once dreamed of marrying a tall women with black hair and blue eyes who would play the guitar and sing. My wife can’t play the guitar or sing.

She has brown eyes, and she’s not tall."

"Your wife is beautiful and very kind," said his friend. "She creates splendid pictures and delectable food."

But the man wasn’t listening.

"I am very sad," the man confessed to his wife one day.

"Why?" asked his wife.

"Because I once dreamed of living in a big house with a porch, and of having two Saint Bernards and a garden out back. Instead, I live in an apartment on the 47^th floor."

"Our apartment is comfortable, and we can see the ocean from our couch," replied his wife. "We have love laughter and paintings of birds and a fluffy cat -not to mention three beautiful children."

But the man wasn’t listening.

"I am very sad," the man said to his therapist.

"Why?" asked the therapist.

"Because I once dreamed that I would grow up to be a great adventurer. Instead, I’m a bald businessman with a bad knee."

"The medical supplies you sell have saved many lives," said the therapist.

But the man wasn’t listening. So his therapist charged him $110 and sent him home.

"I am very sad," the man said to his accountant.

"Why?" asked the accountant.

"Because I once dreamed of driving a red Ferrari and of never having to pick up after myself. Instead, I take public transportation, and sometimes I still have to clean up."

"You wear good suits. You eat at fine restaurants, and you’ve toured Europe," said his accountant.

But the man wasn’t listening. His accountant charged him $100 anyway. He was dreaming of a red Ferrari himself.

"I am very sad," the man said to his minister.

"Why?" asked the minister.

"Because I once dreamed of having three sons; a great scientist, a politician and a quarterback. Instead, I have three daughters, and the youngest can’t even walk."

"But your daughters are beautiful and intelligent," said the minister. "They love you very much, and they’ve all done well. One is a nurse, another is an artist and the youngest teaches music to children."

But the man wasn’t listening. He was so sad that he became very sick. He lay in a white hospital room surrounded by nurses in white uniforms. Tubes and wires connected his body to blinking machines that he had once sold to the hospital.

He was terribly, tragically sad. His family, friends and minister gathered around his bed. They were all deeply sad too. Only his therapist and his accountant remained happy.

Then one night, when everyone except the nurses had gone home, the man said to God, "Remember when I was a boy and I told you all the things I wanted?"

"It was a lovely dream," said God.

"Why didn’t you give me those things?" asked the man.

"I could have," said God. "But I wanted to surprise you with things you didn’t dream of.

"I suppose you’ve noticed what I’ve given you: a kind, beautiful wife; a good business; a nice place to live; three lovely daughters -one of the best packages I’ve put together-"

"Yes," interrupted the man. "But I thought you were going to give me what I really wanted."

"And I thought you were going to give me what I really wanted," said God.

"What did you want?" asked the man. It had never occurred to him that God was in want of anything.

"I wanted to make you happy with what I’d given you," said God.

The man lay in the dark all night, thinking. Finally he decided to dream a new dream, one he wished he’d dreamed years before. He decided to dream that what he wanted most were the very things he already had.

And the man got well and lived happily on the 47^th floor, enjoying his children’s beautiful voices, his wife’s deep brown eyes and her glorious paintings of birds. And at night he gazed at the ocean and contentedly watched the lights of the city twinkling on, one by one.

" You are what you think about. All you are arises from your thoughts. With your thoughts, you make your world." The Buddha.

Chupke se

Chupkese koi dilme sama jata hai. Jane kyu use muje tadpane me bada maza ata hai. koi itna darad de gaya humko, par kambaqath dilko usiper hi pyar aata hai………..!

Kyun???

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yeh kaisi ajab si aaag hai seene mein
yeh kaisi pyaas hai
yeh kaisi talab hai dil mein
kyun kisi ke aane ki aas hai

kyun dil dekhta hai hazaron sapne
kyun nahi bhaamp paata yeh parayon mein se apne
kyun har koi lagta hai dost ki tarha
aur phir kyun man hota hai udaas,
jab wo chala jaata hai ehsaan faramosh ki tarha

Tanhai......:-(

Katoon si chubhti hai Tanhai
Angaroon si sulagti hai Tanhai

Koi aa kar hum dono ko hunsa de
Main rota hoon rone lagti hai Tanhai

Jab bhi tere Hisar se nikalna chaha
Yaadoon k beej bone lagti hai Tanhai

Raat k kisi hise main yeh bhi Bewafa ho jati hai
Main nahi sota sone lagti hai Tanhai

Tum se judaa ho kar is se hi Dil laga lia hai
Mar sa jata hoon jab khone lagti hai Tanhai

Yaadein......

Reh jaati hain bas yaadein din raat rulane ko
kyon aa jaate hain wo saamne har baar dil ko dukhane ko
Kon bataye is nasamajh pagal dil ko
ke shayad wo bhi yaad karte honge kabhi guzre zamane ko

Zaruri to nahi jine ke liye Sahara ho,
Zaruri to nahi hum jinke hai who humara ho,
Kuch kashtiya doob bhi jaya karti hai,
Zaruri to nahi har kashti ka kinara ho..

shararat na hoti shikayat na hoti
nayano me kisi ke nazakat na hoti
na hoti bekarari na hote hum tanha
jo jahan me kambakht mahobat na hoti
na hote ye sapne ye khwabo ki duniya
kisi ko chahat ki tamanna na hoti
na zulfo ki chhaya na phoolo ki khushboo
yado me unki yu rate na katti
jo na hoti mahobat ye ansu na hote
dil bhi na khota aaj tanha na rota
majnu si apani ye halat na hoti
jo jaha me kambakht mahobbat na hoti

Bas itni si inaayat mujh pe aik baar kijiye
Kabhi aa ke mere zakhmon ka dedaar kijiye

Ho jaaye begaane aap shauq se sanam
Aapkee hain aapkee rahegey aitbaar kijiye

Parhne waale hi darr jaayen dekh kar ise
Kitaab-e-dil ko itnaa na daagdaar kijiye

Na majboor kijiye, ke main unko bhool jaaun
Mujhe meri wafaaon ka na gunehgaar kijiye

In jalte diyon ko dekh kar na muskuraaiye
Zara hawaaon ke chalne ka intezaar kijiye

Karna hai ishq aapse karte rahenge hum
Jo bhi karna hai aapko mere sarkaar, kijiye

Phir sapno ka ashiyaan bana liya hai maine
Phir aandhiyon ko aap khabardaar kijiye

Hame na dikhaiye ye daulaate ye shohrat
Hum pyaar ke bhookhe hain humey pyaar kijiye

One day, a girl, 16yrs old, heard from her mother that if she does a regular prayer for 4 yrs, a divine "Angel" would come to her in her dreams & give her 3 boons. So she decided to do it. She completed 4 years successfully, doing prayer regularly.Now it was a day for "Angel" to come. So she slept earlier with thoughts in her mind to ask. And, really an "Angel" comes in her dreams. Now this is the dialogue between them.Angel: O Girl, you prayed to me regularly within last 4 yrs, so I am very very happy with you. I will complete any of your 3 wishes. You can ask anything you like, but there is one condition.Girl: Condition!, what is that?Angel: You have a boy-friend?Girl: Yes.Angel: When you were doing a prayer, he was waiting for you, so he also sacrificed same as you. Moreover, he didn’t know anything about boon and all, so he is also eligible for the boons. So whatever you will ask, he will get 10 times more than that of you. If you are agreed, then proceed for the 1st boon.Girl: (After thinking for some time …): Yes, I am ready.Girl: 1st, make me 10 times richer than the richest person in the world.Angel: But your boy-friend will be 10 times richer than you.Girl: It’s OK.Angel: Be as you wish!Girl: 2nd, Make me 10 times more beautiful than the most beautiful girl in the world. Angel: But your boy-friend will be 10 times handsome than the most handsome boy in the world.Girl: It’s OK.Angel: Be as you wish.Angel: Now the last boon remains.Girl: O Angel, please give me a MILD HEART-ATTACK.Angel: What? Are you sure!Girl: Yes. Very sure!Angel: Be as you wish.Think friends, what happened to her boy-friend, he got a severe heart-attack & died at once, while the girl remained alive. Thus, the girl became the world’s most beautiful girl and the richest one, too.Moral of the story: So intelligent the girls are! Girls are really more intelligent than we believe about them to be. So be careful boys!Now, girls please stop reading … boys scroll down…

************************************************Dear boys, don't worry, actually what happened is something different than what you all think! Actually, the girl’s boy-friend got a heart-attack, 10 TIMES MILDER than that of the girl. So the boy-friend lived longer than the girl, being world’s richest and the most handsome boy.Moral of the story: Dear boys, the girls are not really that much intelligent than what we believe them to be. So don't worry if you think that you have girl-friend, intelligent than you.Hey….I told u girls not to read…Just for fun with truth…

Beauty Parlor:A place where women curl up and dye

Cannibal:Someone who is fed up with people

Dust:Mud with the juice squeezed out

Egotist:Someone who is usually me-deep in conversation

Gossip:A person who will never tell a lie if the truth will do more damage

Handkerchief:Cold storage

Inflation:Cutting money in half without damaging the paper

Raisin:Grape with a sunburn

Tomorrow:One of the greatest labor saving devices of today

Mosquito:An insect that makes you like flies better

Yawn:An honest opinion openly expressed

Secret:Something you tell to one person at a time

HOW CLEVER ARE U?

Below are 4 questions. Answer them instantly. You can't take your time. Answer them immediately. No pencil or paper! OK?Let's find out just how smart and clever you really are. Ready? ... GO!!! FIRST QUESTION: You are participating in a race. You overtake the second person. What position are you in? -------------ANSWER: If you answer that you are first, then you are absolutely wrong! If you overtake the second person and you take his place, you are second! Try not to screw up in the next question.To answer the second question, don't take as much time as you took for the first question.SECOND QUESTION: If you overtake the last person, then you are...? ----------ANSWER: If you answered that you are second to last, then you are wrong again. Tell me, how can you overtake the LAST person?!THIRD QUESTION: Very tricky math! Note: This must be done in your head only. Do NOT use paper and pencil or a calculator. Try it. Take 1000 and add 40 to it. Now add another 1000. Now add 30. Add another 1000. Now add 20. Now add another 1000. Now add 10. What is the total?-------------ANSWER: Did you get 5000? The correct answer is actually 4100.Don't believe it? Check with your calculator! Today is definitely not your day. Maybe you will get the last question right? LAST QUESTION: Mary's father has five daughters: Nana, Nene, Nini, Nono. What is the name of the fifth daughter? -------------ANSWER: Nunu? Nana? Nene? NO NO! Of course not. The fifth daughter's name is Mary.

A Four-Step Formula for Saying "No!"

Glancing at the clock, Jill notices that she has less than a half hour to finish her presentation for tomorrow morning’s meeting before racing home to begin her second shift of carpooling, cooking, and cleaning. Co-worker Gary suddenly peeks into her office and asks for help with his piece of the presentation. Jill immediately finds herself blurting out, “No problem,” instead of speaking her truth and saying “No.” Why do we say yes when we really want to say no?
According to Dr. Judith Tingley, author of Say What You Mean, Get What You Want: A Businessperson’s Guide to Direct Communication, the biggest barrier to communicating assertively is fear. We fear being judged, criticized or intimidated. We fear losing power, status or a good friend if we turn down a request. Some of us fear making our personal needs a priority because that makes us selfish, a label we tend to avoid at all costs. Yet the personal costs associated with the inability to say what we feel include lack of time and energy to pursue our own desires; anger, bitterness and resentment toward the individual we agree to help; health issues; and low self-esteem. I can relate to all the above.
Like most women I possessed goals and dreams. However, no matter how much lip service I paid to my desires, I always found myself filling my time meeting other people’s needs and expectations. This lifestyle came with a payoff. Staying busy helping others provided me with an incredible self-image of the “perfect” employee, mother, wife, friend or daughter, and it also provided me with the best excuse in the world why I couldn’t pursue my own dreams. After all, “I simply don’t have the time.”
When I decided to get honest with myself about my inability to say no, I had to acknowledge that I craved acceptance from others because I had not yet learned how to love and accept myself, imperfections and all. I was sacrificing my self-respect for the approval of others. I had to admit that I was scared to death to go after what I said I wanted. As Oprah would say, that was my “a-ha” moment. That was the moment when everything began to change.
After learning how to speak my truth with grace, I no longer was the default setting in everyone else’s time of crisis. My fears left one by one as I noticed the newfound respect of others. I was amazed at how coworkers, friends and family had the capacity to hear the truth when it was communicated from my heart.
How did I do this? I learned different habits. To help me remember, I anchor these new behaviors with the same words children learn when crossing the street. Stop, Look, and Listen before crossing (Go).
Stop: Instead of rushing to make a decision, simply stop and take a deep breath. Depending on the immediacy of the situation, you may say something like, “Gee, that sounds interesting, let me get back to you,” or “Please give me a minute to gather my thoughts and take a look at my schedule.” (This is also a great parenting tip so you don’t have to go back on your word.) In other words, remove the pressure of feeling like you have to reply immediately.
Look: Take a long, hard look at your current commitments and calendar. If you say your health is the most important thing in your life, have you put your calendar where your mouth is? Put your focus on what you want and schedule it in to make sure it happens. No one is going to give you what you need to get for yourself. When you’re clear on your internal goals and schedule your time to reflect your desires, it’s easier to find the confidence necessary to say no to others in order to say yes to you.
Listen: Listen to and acknowledge your feelings. When you first hear the request, what is your immediate reaction? Are you excited and enthusiastic about the opportunity, or do you wish the person would just magically disappear? Do you truly want to do what is asked, or is it something you think you “should” do? “Shoulds” come loaded with guilt. Guilt is simply anger turned inward because you can’t do what you really want. Honor your true feelings for long-term personal sanity and happiness.
Go: Go on with integrity. Let go of your fears and simply speak your truth. Don’t give excuses – just a simple, “No, I won’t be able to participate, but I hope you have a wonderful time,” or “No, my calendar is full but thank you for thinking of me.” Or in Jill’s case she could say, “Gary, I won’t be able to help. I have just enough time left to finish my own commitments.” Then, zip it. No need to elaborate or apologize. If you still feel guilty, ask yourself a simple question: What is my intent? If your intention in saying no is purely to respect your own priorities and needs, then release all fears and go forward. If anyone gets upset, it’s about them, not about you.
My own personal experience with learning to say no over the last decade has been an incredible journey. I've carved out time to get my masters, lose 50 lbs. (eating properly and exercising takes time!), start my own professional-speaking business and spend valuable time with my two precious daughters. After all, if I’m going to teach them to say no to their peers, I'd best practice what I preach.

by Colette Carlson

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THAT'S LIFE DONT LET ANYBODY RULE U

The Duck and the Devil
There was a little boy visiting his grandparents on their farm.He was given a slingshot to play with out in the woods. He Practiced in the woods, but he could never hit the target. Getting A little discouraged, he headed back for dinner. As he was Walking back he saw Grandma's pet duck.Just out of impulse, he let the slingshot fly, hit the duck Square in the head, and killed it. He was shocked and grieved.
In a panic, he hid the dead duck in the wood pile, only to see His sister watching! Sally had seen it all, but she said nothing.After lunch the next day Grandma said, "Sally, let's wash the Dishes." But Sally said, "Grandma, Johnny told me he wanted to help in The kitchen." Then she whispered to him, "Remember the duck?" So Johnny did the dishes.Later that day, Grandpa asked if the children wanted to go Fishing and Grandma said, "I'm sorry but I need Sally to help make Supper." Sally just smiled and said," Well that's all right because Johnny told Me he wanted to help." She whispered again, "Remember the duck?" So Sally Went fishing and Johnny stayed to help. After several days of Johnny doing both his chores and Sally's, He finally couldn't stand it any longer. He came to Grandma and confessed that he had killed the duck. Grandma knelt down, gave him a hug, and said, "Sweetheart, I know. You see, I was standing at the window and I saw the whole thing, but because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long You would let Sally make a slave of you."**********Thought for the day and every day thereafter?Whatever is in your past, whatever you have done... And the devil Keeps throwing it up in your face (lying, cheating, debt, fear, bad Habits, hatred, anger, bitterness, etc.) ....whatever it is....You need to know that God was standing at the window and He saw the whole thing..... He has seen your whole life. He wants you to know that He loves you and that you are forgiven.He's just wondering how long you will let the devil make a slave Of you.The great thing about God is that when you ask for forgiveness, He Not only forgives you, but He forgets . It is by God's grace and Mercy that we are saved.Go ahead and make the difference in someone's life today. Share This with a friend and always remember : God is at the window.